The coffee that changed my life

On the 9^th of September 2013 I had an encounter with a man of God that changed my life forever. I had the privilege of flying to East London on a Myles Munroe Ministries Chartered Jet. It was a providential call from Charlie Masala the Director for the African office that got the miracle in motion. His Pastor George Mosena was originally scheduled to fly with Dr. Myles but could not make the event because of some business meetings advised him to call me and ask if I was available to take his place and I was more than eager and immediately made myself available. The only hick up was I did not have the money for the event and Charlie graciously said no just book your room in the hotel and the rest will be sorted. Because I had a conference at the end of that week we had focused all our resources into making the conference a success. But God was working behind the scenes as he had a clear mandate that I was not privy to yet. Just as I was about to call Charlie and cancel the flight some members of the church called and said Pastor we have put together the money needed we want you to go for this event.

 

We arrived in East London on the Private jet and Doctor Myles landed 40 minutes later on another jet and this is where it gets exciting. We were all obviously exuberant and expectant to meet the legend. I had been reading his books and listening to him for just over 22 years and now I was about to meet him. On arrival he had his signature big smile and hearty welcome to the team and while hugs were being exchanged and greetings flowing and cameras flashing he said “Wow I have been travelling so much I need a cup of coffee” Because I was taught to serve I immediately ran to a Mugg and Bean which was a stone throw away and got him the coffee. On getting back to the company that was till doing pictures I handed him the coffee and he looked at me and said “Hey you heard my request for coffee” and he took the coffee and put his other hand on me and said “son receive the prophets rewards the Lord will take you to the nations…” I was stunned because by this time there was no formal introduction and he was prophesying into my life in line with the vision I carried.

Let me throw this in here as an extra beginning of 2012 I walked into Kenneth Copeland Ministries Office in Boskruin Randburg South Africa to meet the Director Christine Blumstein who has since become a mother to my wife and I. The moment she saw me the Prophetic anointing came upon her and she said three things to me that day 1. You are a businessman you will start many businesses 2. You will be a good father because you were a faithful son 3. You are the Myles Munroe of Africa you will teach many nations. I am meeting her for the first time and this is the greeting you get? Because I understand the prophetic I knew that something was happening and I received that word. As I write now we are speaking to many countries in Africa Via television and 9 Countries via radio my blogs have had over 200000 views. I have just launched a publishing company and a whole lot of other great things that we do not have time to talk about here.

We then got into the bus that took us to the hotel that when we got to speak a little and got introduced and I was amazed at he was so humble and human we could speak openly and freely. His love for people without regard to status image etc. was outstanding. We did the business of the day and went to bed while I thought on these things I felt led to give him a copy of my book Success Paradigms 101 so as we boarded the jet the next day I mustered enough courage to walk up to him and hand him a copy of my book. Because we now had established a relationship that was getting on very well he received the book opened it and browsed for a few seconds and his eye fell on a statement I had quoted from one of his books and he said this is a good book I receive then again at the airport he put his hand over me and said “My son receive the prophets reward. The anointing on my life is upon you. You will write more books than me, travel more countries than me and speak to more national leaders than me. The Lord will give you influence and you will walk in favor and you will be a voice…”

There was no keyboard, there was no intercession team praying in the spirit, I did not fall on the tarmac but something happened in my spirit that day that has changed the trajectory of my life and ministry. That was the beginning of a powerful relationship that has imparted great graces into my life. The cup of Mugg and Bean caffeinated coffee and a book worth R120 has changed my life forever. I shared this to encourage someone out there that disregard where you are and what you have been through trust God and He will direct your path. The coffee and the book was my best seed if I had cash on me that day I would have sown it but I gave my best seed and it changed my life. Did I buy the prophetic word? Not at all it was a step of faith that provoked the anointing to flow. God had a divine appointment and knew exactly what He wanted to do in my life and had to move all these people to ensure that it happened. God is at work in your life right now He is moving situations to make them work for your good.

If a cup of coffee can change my life I’m it can change yours, what your cup? What’s your seed? Regardless of how small it is. The widow sowed a seed into the prophet’s life and it happened to be her last meal but that act of faith fed her for a long time. Sow a seed into your man or woman of God connect with what God is doing in your destiny. Redefine your life forever.

Thank you God bless you

Watch to see what He says

I will stand upon my watch, and set me upon the tower, and will watch to see what he will say unto me, and what I shall answer when I am reproved. (Habakkuk 2:1)

There are many people with eyes that look but not many have eyes to see. Looking and seeing are two different things in my coaching sessions the challenge I have with a lot of people is that they cannot see. They look at different situations and never see the real situation as it is or better still as it should be. The people that run the world are those that see what others fail to see. Proverbs 29:18 says where there is no vision the people perish, vision is looking and seeing more than Joe average who looks and fails to see. 

Looking is the perception of light and is a function of the eye, seeing is perception of what should be and is a function of the imagination. Here is the biggest question are you looking and not seeing or are you seeing beyond what your eyes are perceiving? The ability to see can be developed and you can get better at seeing. The reason I can say this is because I have had to work on myself and I can see more now than ever before. There was a time when I was just an employee and I functioned as an employee but when I began to attend leadership development meetings my mind was renewed and I began to see and I became a new person.

 

A few steps to develop the ability to see

1. Look in between the lines. This means look for the detail that is not obvious

2. Ask relevant questions (why, what, how, how long etc) when you learn to question everything you begin to see what others cannot see?

3. How can I do things differently and achieve better results?

4. What's in it for me? This is the motivation question. It's not humility to say I really don't want anything here I'm just doing it 

Did you notice the scripture above states that the person was responsible for positioning himself to hear the what God was saying but when God spoke he "SAW". In other words Gods words are not necessarily heard but they are seen. When He says something you see something. If you are not positioned to to listen you will never hear what He is saying. Think about this carefully and take action as you could have been missing what He is showing you. Look again and see.

For more on this join our coaching sessions and we will reach you how to see. You can see more than you have been seeing, you can grow yourself and get yourself to a place where you influence the space you occupy. 

Everyone wants to win?

Everyone wants to win?

I am sitting and watching netball matches at my kids school and learning so much about life. As a success coach I have learnt that there is a lesson in everything. The energy and the passion to score and win is amazing in the hearts of human beings. We are all born with a desire to win in life but all to often our environment or surrounding circumstances push our that passion for life and replaces it with a sad sense of indifference. To be alive is to have a desire to win, to succeed to achieve a worthwhile goal that leaves one with a contended fulfilment. 

What is intriguing for me in all this is watching the parents that seem to want to win more than the children. It seems they are trying to get back at the loses they experienced in their earlier days. So to see their child succeed causes them to feel more fulfilled. Winning brings energy to life it gives one motivation to look forward to another day. We all want to win whether we are open about this or not, I look and see grown men loose sleep over their favourite soccer team or rugby team. It makes me wonder why they are so keen to see the win as if they bet their life on the team, I suppose some go that far.

How to win

1.     Have a desire to win. Be obsessed about the desired goal

2.     Be aggressive in your pursuit of the set goal

3.     Listen to the coach. They see the big picture

4.     When you make mistakes recover quickly

5.     Pass the ball accurately. Every move counts every miss costs

6.     Put your best into every moment you never know what it will lead to

7.     Respect the referee oh and the opponents (never take anything for granted)

8.     While the match is on stay at optimum (rest only when you have own and start immediately to prepare for the next match) 

All the above are great and I could write more about them but let me close by focusing on my favourite of these success tips. Create a winning atmosphere. It looks like the atmosphere plays a significant role in winning in life. This can be created by having the right support structure, some noise and the right mindset. In fact the mindset is the biggest key here because those playing on home ground have the added advantage of having a bigger cheerleading team. So the visitors have to depend on what they are thinking. 

Most battles are won in the mind when one gives up before the final whistle blows. When the game is going against you it is easy to give up inside and see yourself to have lost. Losing a match does not mean you have failed; you've just had an opportunity to learn and get better prepared. 

Finally when you are done talk to your opponents. You may learn some valuable lessons from them that will be your competitive advantage next time. Always remember "Even you can succeed"

7 Habits of Effective Men

I found this article totally awesome so I thought to share it. Its not one of mine it was on Charisma Magazine and I am not sure who authored it but its good for you.  When I think of a man who fits the title of effective I think of Dr. Myles Munroe. Have known him personally I observed his conduct as a leader and his love for his wife and kids and his love for people from ALL walks of life I was awed. These things are simple yet so profound and yet I find so few people that live this and sometimes I have to check myself. Enjoy this article

Effective men do daily what average men do occasionally.

I enjoy reading biographies of great men. Doing so gives me insight into some of the brightest, most creative and successful men who have lived. Some of these men lived long ago, yet their life stories become lessons applicable for today. Other men are still living and willingly giving us the secrets to their achievements.

Not only do we see their genius on display, but we often learn how the traumas of their youth motivated them. These men often share their failures in business and finance, even marriage and family, and provide key insights into overcoming setbacks.

You can gain wisdom through a mentor or through pain.

I suggest you choose mentors. Through the mentorship these biographies of great men have afforded me, I have discovered seven habits of effective men:

1. Effective men steward their time. Most effective men start their work at the same time each day. Most have a reflexive system of managing their routine. For example, Nick Saban, the very effective football coach, has mastered the proficient use of his time. Read this article to see what I mean.

2. Effective men are constant learners. The greatest habit I ever developed in my life is reading one chapter of Proverbs each day. I learned this from the very effective Zig Ziglar. He valued it so much that he created an audio version for us. (Available here.)

3. Effective men speak positively. The science of positive attitudes and speech confirms it has incredible results on our health, wealth and longevity. Yet some men haven’t mastered this simple trait. I struggled with a speech impediment as a child, so speaking is very important to me. Words matter, and for me to be effective I must give careful consideration to what I am saying and how I say it. Interestingly, Jesus actually is a great example of this when He said, “These words you hear are not my own; they belong to the Father who sent me.”

4. Effective men focus on details. Small things matter, and small things overlooked are often the destroyer of greater things. Focusing on the details makes all the difference. I have known very gifted men who were sloppy in the details. Their success was constantly undermined by their lack of attention to detail. You cannot expect an excellent life with 80 percent effort.

5. Effective men pray. The greatest habit of a man is to embrace the isolation of prayer. God relates to men in the daily commute. As you’re going to work, pray about the challenges that you are facing—the finances, the sales, your productivity. As you leave work, pray about your home, for your wife and over your children. I am going to quote an unlikely source for this point: “I’m a busy guy, but I set aside quiet time every morning and every evening to keep my equilibrium centered on my own path” (Donald Trump).

6. Effective men exercise. The physical body is a machine—a remarkable machine—that houses who we are. We must invest in it. We must care for it. It won’t last forever, but it is vital for now. I continue to resist the effects that travel and a busy schedule have on my body. I want to be in the best physical health I can be in my 50s. Yes, it is hard, but if I am going to accomplish my purpose in life, I need to be strong for another 30 years.

7. Effective men rest. God established it, even commanded it. It is as vital for your effectiveness as breathing—it is called rest. Fatigue is the greatest threat to your future. When you are tired, you let your guard down in decision-making. When you are tired, you are not focused on details, you do not control your words and may say things you will regret. When you are tired, you are not creative. When you are tired, you are vulnerable to a spiritual attack. Never make a permanent decision when you are tired.

So how about it, men? What are some of the best lessons you’ve learned? What effective habits have you noticed in other successful men? What effective habits do you need to work on?

Share these principles with a brother and encourage them and guess what you become a Success Coach